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Danika.
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Hey, hey. Welcome to the Danika Chevalier show where raw meets radiant soul meets strategy, and no topic is too sacred or too spicy. I'm Danika creator mother, spiritual disruptor and intuitive biz mentor around here, we don't play just small talk. We talk soul contracts, body wisdom, building businesses from the inside out, and we keep it real with all things momhood. So if you are ready to realign with your inner voice, reclaim your power and reach for your next level, let's get into it.
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Hello and welcome to Episode One. I'm not even
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sure what I'm going to be naming this yet, so I am just going to jump right in. Thank you for being here, for joining me on my podcast, we are here. We've made it. And had a reading done probably about a year ago. And my my guides and my angels were were pushing. They were saying, like, hey, let's get on it. Like, this is, this is what's happening next, like you and the podcast and sharing your voice. And at that time, it felt like a very far away thing.
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I was really not in the space to be feeling
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empowered and confident and rooted in my voice, to be sharing it. So it's it's a really cool thing to be, to be here right now and recording this episode, and I'm really grateful that you are sharing this time with me. So, yeah, if, if this is our first intro, thanks again for being here. And I originally wanted to start with kind of my origin story of how the fuck I got here. Who is she? Who does she think she is to start a podcast? Everyone has a podcast today, right?
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But I'm leaning into to just being whole and authentic and in my integrity and
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choosing to quiet the doubtful, you know, voices that may creep in and if
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people who listen to this or see this do have those thoughts, I mean, that's beyond my control, and thank you, because clearly I am mirroring and awakening something in them to be questioning me and to be having those comments or judgments on me. So I think it's all just a really beautiful thing that
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that I'm owning this and stepping into it. And today, I really wasn't planning on recording. It's a Monday morning. It was a very taxing daycare drop off this morning, as Monday mornings typically are.
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And yeah, I was just feeling like not my best self this morning. I lost my cool a little bit with the kids, and,
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you know, kind of had to really reign it in, within myself. And as soon as I dropped them off, I said, you know, I'm going to go get myself a Starbucks, and we're gonna sit down and set up and record some podcasts. Because I keep putting it off, not putting it off, but it keeps being one of these things. I've got all the setup for it, I've got the content for it, but I just haven't done the thing. So I just needed to sit my ass down and do the thing. So here we are. And, yeah, I originally had the intention to, you know, kind of give the background story who I am, how I got here, my journey to entrepreneurship, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. But I feel like that will be woven in throughout the episodes. So,
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and I'm really not in a space to kind of rehash that right now. Anyhow, I just am not
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so, yeah, my intention is to keep these podcast episodes pretty short. And by short I mean like 20 to 30 minutes.
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Because truthfully, I find myself overwhelmed when I see a podcast it's like an hour and a half long. I'm like, fuck that shit. I don't have that kind of time to devote to that and like, I have ADHD self diagnose, well, kind of and,
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yeah, I just, I get overwhelmed when I see that the time is, like, longer than 2030, minutes, because I feel
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like, then there's a lot of rambling. Anyways, I'm not going to go into that, but so my intention is to keep these a little bit shorter, more bite sized, more condensed, so that if you're feeling like in a funk, or if you're feeling like, I don't really know what to listen to, I'm feeling like out of alignment, throw an episode on. Shift your focus, shift your energy, maybe it'll feel like you connected with the PAL. That's my intention, too. Is just like to come on here and make you feel like you're chatting.
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With you know, a sister, a cousin, a lifelong friend, someone who, like really knows your inner truest version of you, and that we can just land in our in our true selves and our soul selves in this space. So that is, that, is that, is it. And I really want this to also be a space that, like is a a
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landing pad and a foundation. I want this to open up conversations. I want, DMS I want I don't know where this is going to go for me, truthfully, I have really big visions and really big intentions
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of wanting to create. I don't know what it's going to look like yet, a movement, a community, a
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course, not a course, but I just, I want to empower women, especially moms, especially, to
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become their own captains of their ships, become entrepreneurs. Follow the intuitive call, apply for the job, get, take the course. Like, whatever that thing is that you are feeling like within yourself, like, this, isn't it? This, isn't it? Or, like, there's a little, little voice that's like, oh, maybe this would be fun to try. Oh, maybe this would be fun to try. I really hope that by listening to these episodes and by, you know, growing with myself and with our community, that you will feel empowered to follow that intuitive nudge and to lean into those scary parts of yourself, because those are your soul coming through, those little whispers, those little nudges, those little coincidences or those that's your that's your blueprint that's woven in, that's pre made, that's just kind of making its crack through. And
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I'm gonna spoil it for everyone listening, but like, it's all gonna work out, and it's all gonna be okay in the end, because you already pre
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planned this whole venture before coming into this life. So your job is just to follow those. And the sooner you lean into it, and the sooner you clear the space and you get clear on your crap, the faster you expedite that you know aligned fullest desired life for yourself, so I'm here to just support you along that way and cheer you on and just really be in your corner in embracing and becoming the fullest version of you. And I can really speak to that, because I have been really practicing that within myself in really the last year has been a real big
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learning curve. I apologize for the silence. I just can't find my the words, because it's just been such a journey, and I am in the final weeks of really transitioning out of my first business so I am now I can call myself an exited CEO of the business that I founded, and that is a spin and hot yoga and now Pilates studio.
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I was never really in a place before to be able to share these things, because I had to kind of keep this front
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in this leadership position, in this leadership role of and I really did have the space because I was so busy trying to keep the ship afloat. So yeah, now that I've been able to work through a lot of this stuff on the back end, I'm really excited to
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kind of come out of the spiritual closet and be able to share my learnings and my experiences. And as I'm in this final leg of letting go of my studio, it it feels different than I thought it would. Isn't that the way, though, isn't it?
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Yeah, yeah. And I mean, I can only, you can only look back on experiences. Hindsight is 2020, right? But I feel like
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I'm looking at it in a different lens than I thought I would, which has been really cool. And I think it's testament to all of the work and all of the space that I've given myself over the past year to
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get in touch with my feelings, until this past year, I was in a state of just chronic hustling, chronic fight or flight, chronic Make It Happen, boss, babe, all the things and
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and it worked until it didn't. And the irony in this particular area of my life is that I actually founded a business that was built on
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self empowerment and self care.
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Air, and
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the notion of carving out, you know, 45 minutes, an hour to yourself, and by committing to yourself, committing to your physical movement, your moving meditation, that when you make those commitments, and when you find the little pockets of time and you
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and you're disciplined enough to keep it going despite all of the other things that life throws at you, that cascades and that ripples into the rest of your life, right when You start really practicing self care more than just a face mask and a pedicure, but like true self care, where you honor your commitments to yourself,
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it has to show up in other areas of your life, right? But the irony in my particular situation is, while I was the beacon and the you know spokesperson for this,
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I was so busy being that and providing that for my community that it completely went to the wayside for myself, as well as
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the pressure was all on me to make this happen, keep this business afloat, make, you know, the lease payments, make the bike payments, make my mortgage payments, etc, etc. So I didn't have time to stop for a lot of years. And I was thrown some curveballs. I shouldn't say I was throwing some curveballs. I chose to come in to this space at this time and learn these lessons.
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And
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yeah, but this last year was really the first time that I was able to kind of take a beat, and it was kind of a forceful, a forceful pause, because my body finally just was screaming at me, like, we cannot keep doing this. You have had three babies in five years, and you have been going at this
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bull in a china shop speed for, you know, the last eight years, and it's just not,
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not conducive anymore. So I was forced to really realign with
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what I need, what I desire, and do a lot of self introspection, reflection, and that came actually in the way of really taking care of my physical body,
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first and foremost. And then it kind of, you know, wove its way into more spiritual
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aha moments and whatnot, but really taking care of my physical self is how it really started for me. And I think that's a really powerful again,
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not mantra, but like, way of
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viewing the lessons, and for me, you know, that kind of brought me back to that piece of self care. And when I committed to these practices and committed to these things for myself, it cascaded and rippled outwards
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in my life. So it really reinforced my inner voice. It really reinforced my connection to my intuition and allowed that clarity to come through. So by taking care of my physical self, and what I mean by taking care of my physical self in the past year is I started doing I promised myself I wouldn't talk about this in this episode, but here we are. I am that person. I started doing coffee enemas, and it changed my life, and it really allowed for the brain fog to clear, and a lot of, I think, physical stuff to be removed from my body, and then it kind of
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made everything else like no nonsense. So
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that was pretty interesting, and I will get into that on some other episodes, because I am here to preach the coffee enema
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life from the top of the mountains. I have created a free giveaway already which walks you through the whole process. I'm really excited to share it with everyone, but it just hasn't been the right time yet. So,
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yeah, so just
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coming back to, you
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know, that piece of self care and that piece of it's all fun and dandy to want to
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do and be all the things for all the people, but at what expense and what cost, and for me, I never anticipated that
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this intention of wanting to create this space for consciousness and for self care would, in the end, be the thing that like does.
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Me in it's such a
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funny I can say funny now because it is funny now, looking back at it, because it's it's just the irony of it. It's like that Alanis Morisette song or whatever, right? Like, it's just,
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yeah, so I'm embracing this next portion of my path. Um,
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there's a lot of unknown. There's a lot of
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up in the air. The question I'm getting a lot is, what now? What next? Well, I do have another business, tippy tallow, and I'm really trying to figure out what I want from that business, because that one is another offshoot of my deep desire and my deep passion and my deep
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soul mission to share and expand the consciousness on on an even more rooted level of holistic self care, which is how we, you know, what we put On our body and in our body, and I got caught in really wanting to build a product and a brand with that one, because I'm eight years into business now. So you learn a lot about the back ends of marketing and psychology and branding and all of these things, the more you get into your entrepreneurial journey. And when you're a consumer, you kind of are blind to it. You kind of understand it from a different angle, but not quite the same. But it's very easy in the entrepreneurial world to get really caught up in that expression, like keeping up with the Joneses, and really caught up with
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you. This influencers doing it this way, or there's this guide, and I found myself kind of
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outsourcing, not my power, but outsourcing the mission and the vision for this brand and for this business. And so now I'm kind of again, taking the time to reign it back in, bring it all back back home, and figure out my next pivot with that as well, because I really do feel it's a really aligned piece of me that I want to put out there in the world. And it's kind of, it's quiet, but I'm, I'm at the point in my journey now where I listen so I don't have a million sales coming through the doors. I'm not pumping out a bunch of tallow all the time, and that's okay, because I'm just kind of listening, and I'm just kind of taking the time of like I know there's going to be a time where I'm going to be swamped and busy and run off my feet with this business too, and this is not the time, and that's okay. It's because my attention needs to be put elsewhere, or it needs to be recalibrated, or it needs to be fine tuned, and that comes with time, and I but I'm really feeling like this season that I'm in is all about listening to those whispers and
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and working with and in response to
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the universe and the energies and not forcing stuff, I've been, I've been one of those, make it happen. Make it happen. Force the outcome. Force, like, if the answer is no, I'm gonna make it a yes. And
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I'm just, to be frank, I'm tired. Mom's tired so but with that tired has come a lot of beauty in allowing and
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allowing myself to be present in things and enjoy the things that I didn't really have time to enjoy before because I was so busy pushing and hustling and being and showing up and holding space and,
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and, yeah. And now I just get to kind of float for a moment to figure out my next step. And so the next step is really build the tippy tallow brand and more, because have it become more than just a brand I want it to become,
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I don't know, philosophical, like a, like a, I don't know yet was, but we'll get there.
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And,
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yeah, creating this podcast, creating some kind of a community, again, I don't know what that's going to look like, yet, I really have this mission on my heart to
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make not make, help women, help others step into their light and create the lives that they want and
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be there for their kids and show up in their lives the way that they want to and not feel like they are a victim of their circumstances, because I lived that way for a lot of years as well, and even when I was a business owner, I still felt like I was a victim of my circumstances. And it takes a lot of a lot of intentional
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and uncomfortable
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getting clear with your own stuff to break.
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Take out of that, and that's what we're gonna do together in this space. So I hope that
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you are open to leaning into that, or at least you're here so you're obviously led to listening to this portion. Maybe that's where we're at is we're just, we're just dropping planting the seed that maybe there's another way, or maybe maybe there is more for you, or maybe there maybe the more is just, you know, doing less, or saying no to that extracurricular, or creating a boundary, or reading 10 pages of a book a day, or starting with drinking water in the morning, or just any little
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intentional action reaction
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that will set you up for that biggest, best, Brightest version of yourself. And
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yeah, so is there something? Is there something that you're, you're hanging on to? Is there is, for me, it was my business. I had to really get clear and look at, you know, I could keep going this way. I could keep doing this. I, you know, have built this thing, and it's doing great. And I, I was lucky enough to be able to step away from it in a big way when my body requested that I do so, and it was still operating and flourishing and thriving with the systems that I put in place and with having, you know, my hand in it from a back end perspective, but I had to really let go of the Ego who want, like my ego, really wanted to stay in that role and stay in the kind
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of hero complex, but at the end of the day, being in that role really,
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really was sabotaging to me, because I felt like I couldn't fully express myself being In that role and being in the limelight of the community in such a role cancel culture is so real, and I didn't realize how much I had molded myself to become
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a version, a watered down version, that people could really
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tolerate of myself, and
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it got really tiring, and I think that was part of it as well. So really allowing
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and really checking in
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and getting really honest of you know, what relationships are really serving me, where? How am I showing up with this person? How am I showing up in this role, and is it really in alignment? I was finding myself before my body was like hell, no, girlfriend. I was finding myself exhausted after teaching a class. It didn't matter if it was a yoga class where all all I did was talk and support through my my presence and my words, or if it was when I was teaching a spin class where I was actually physically doing it with the class like I
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it took me a day and a half to recover no matter what I was doing, so I really had to
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step back and look at that. And you know, it was hard, because I do have a gift and I and I am good at what I do, and I don't mean that in an arrogant way, but I do have a way of carrying a class and landing with people, because I've practiced and it's what I've done, and
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it sucks to not be able to share that either. But also I had to make the choice to
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honor myself and learn to
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show up in that capacity differently, and so maybe that's what this podcast is going to be moving forward. I don't know. There's a lot of I don't knows right now, but we don't owe these things. So I'll share a little story, and then I'm going to sign off for this episode. But in 2018
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I had to make a really hard decision in my business. I was a spin studio. We were thriving as a spin studio. I only had the one studio space back then, and I was hell bent on bringing in hot yoga, because hot yoga was the thing that got me there. So my hot yoga teacher training is what spearheaded this whole business venture. And
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while I didn't start with hot yoga in my studio, it was easier to start up with spin and incorporate the yoga later. So I started with spin, and we were killing it, but I was still so married to the plan and to my idea of bringing in hot yoga, I couldn't let it go, and it was only after we installed the panels and we tried to make this one studio space work. We were moving the bikes out every class. We were trying to heat up the room with enough time. And what we ended up doing was completely shooting ourselves in the foot and slowing the momentum down with.
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Spin, because we were competing for class times, and we were competing within modalities of the studio, and it just wasn't working. So I had to make a really hard choice, very soon into my business operations and very soon into my hot yoga operations, to cut it loose, because it was killing us. And that was really hard, that was really sad, and I wasn't until I realized that I felt like I owed hot yoga for this beautiful opportunity and experience of opening my own studio. And it wasn't until I recognized that I didn't owe hot yoga, I could let go of hot yoga, and still it was going to be okay. It wasn't going to hold it against me, but I feel like that was where I got to again with my studio at this point, is I had to
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come to that same realization of like, you don't owe your community or your studio anything you've gotten it to here, and you've created this and, like, it's, it's all good. D like, that's enough.
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And just really embracing that and really celebrating that, and knowing that it's going to be okay, and letting that ego grip kind of release and
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trusting that everything serves a purpose, and it's really hard to have those honest conversations with yourself, but I want to pay that forward and ask you, is there something that you feel like you are owing in your life, that you're hanging on to because You feel like you owe it?
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And I just want to remind you that you don't owe anything, anyone, anything, and that goes for your kids too, right? You, you owe it to them to honor yourself and to and to take care of yourself first, because without really taking care of yourself, you are not doing anyone any service, so
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allow your spouse yourself the space to do that. Maybe that means you go for a walk. Maybe that means you just sit in silence for five minutes and see what comes up for you. Maybe that means you go to a yoga class and give yourself that space of moving your body and kind of getting out of your head to see where it takes you,
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and giving thanks to those experiences. And once we recognize these things, then, then we kind of are forced to take action on it. But it doesn't need to be big heavy, you know? You don't need to quit your job tomorrow, kind of action. It can just be recognizing something and then being open to new opportunities, to coming in and just saying to the universe. I I see this, I'm calling it, and now I'm open to something different. Show me the way, right? You're always in constant communication. You're always in constant responding and putting out with your frequency, with your energy and with the universe. So just, just let that conversation flow and that connection flow within you. No one needs to know about it. You don't need to write it out. You don't need to tell your husband about it, but it's just within you. And the more you practice this, the more readily
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This is. Information comes to you as well, right? It's a muscle that you practice and that you grow. So I'm going to sign off on this. What is one choice that you can make today that reinforces and honors where you are at in the present moment? And is there something that you feel you are owing that you can release, and that can be a beautiful thing, too. So that is all for today. Thank you for being here.
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I love you.
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If this episode lit something up in you, I'd love it if you would leave a review or share it with someone who needs to hear it, and if you're craving more real talk and connection, come hang out with me on Instagram. You can find me at I am Danika Chevalier until next time, trust your voice. It knows the way you you.
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